Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Sparing The Rod Helps Make A Normal Child

Sparing The Rod Helps Make A Normal Child I've always thought spanking or slapping kids was WRONG. For some parents beating a child or as the Religious Southerners would say, giving kids a whooping is good for them. I live in a rural community in the middle of the Biblebelt and I‘ve seen this aggressive display upon children countless times. In Wal-Mart I heard a mom tell her toddlers, they were bad and “WAS A GONNA GIT A WHOPPEN!" ... (They were in the back of the store behind some tall shelves so no one could see this monster mom in action) I couldn't see the little kids but I heard them plead for mercy... "No, please mommy don't do it, we’ll be good... We promise! Next sounds were whacking and screaming. How I wished I would have encountered the tyrant and taken her belt and WHOPPED her instead but since I wasn't raised in a house of brutality I didn't try to confront the bitch. What is wrong with these people? Why don’t they realize they’re teaching their kids to become bullies? Ignorance is not bliss, it’s brutal! Please read the article below: SPANKING


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---Study: Spanking Kids Leads to More Aggressive Behavior By ALICE PARK

Disciplining young children is one of the key jobs of any
parent - most people would have no trouble agreeing with
that. But whether or not that discipline should include
spanking or other forms of corporal punishment is a far
trickier issue.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) does not endorse

spanking for any reason, citing its lack of long-term
effectiveness as a behavior-changing tactic. Instead the AAP
supports strategies such as "time-outs" when
children misbehave, which focus on getting kids to reflect on
their behavior and the consequences of their actions. Still,
as many parents can attest, few responses bring about the
immediate interruption of a full-blown tantrum like a swift
whack to the bottom.

Now researchers at Tulane University provide the strongest

evidence yet against the use of spanking: of the nearly 2,500
youngsters in the study, those who were spanked more
frequently at age 3 were more likely to be aggressive by age
5. The research supports earlier work on the pitfalls of
corporal punishment, including a study by Duke University
researchers that revealed that infants who were spanked at 12
months scored lower on cognitive tests at age 3.

"I'm excited by the idea that there is now some nice
hard data that can back up clinicians when they share their
caution with parents against using corporal punishment,"
says Dr. Jayne Singer, clinical director of the child and
parent program at Children's Hospital Boston, who was not
involved in the study.

Led by Catherine Taylor, the Tulane study was the first to
control simultaneously for variables that are most likely to
confound the association between spanking and later
aggressive behavior. The researchers accounted for factors
such as acts of neglect by the mother, violence or aggression
between the parents, maternal stress and depression, the
mother's use of alcohol and drugs, and even whether the
mother considered abortion while pregnant with the child.

Each of these factors contributed to children's aggressive
behavior at age 5, but they could not explain all of the
violent tendencies at that age. Further, the positive
connection between spanking and aggression remained strong,
even after these factors had been accounted for.

"The odds of a child being more aggressive at age 5
if he had been spanked more than twice in the month before
the study began increased by 50%," says Taylor. And
because her group also accounted for varying levels of
natural aggression in children, the researchers are confident
that "it's not just that children who are more
aggressive are more likely to be spanked."

What the study, published Monday in the journal Pediatrics,
shows is that outside of the most obvious factors that may
influence violent behavior in children, spanking remains a
strong predictor. "This study controls for the most
common risk factors that people tend to think of as being
associated with aggression," says Singer. "This
adds more credence, more data and more strength to the
argument against using corporal punishment."

Among the mothers who were studied, nearly half (45.6%)
reported no spanking in the previous month; 27.9% reported
spanking once or twice; and 26.5% reported spanking more than
twice. Compared with children who were not hit, those who
were spanked were more likely to be defiant, demand immediate
satisfaction of their wants and needs, get frustrated easily,
have temper tantrums and lash out physically against others.

The reason for that, says Singer, may be that spanking
instills fear rather than understanding. Even if a child were
to stop his screaming tantrum when spanked, that doesn't mean
he understands why he shouldn't be acting out in the first
place. What's more, spanking models aggressive behavior as a
solution to problems.

For children to understand what and why they have done
something wrong, it may take repeated efforts on the parent's
part, using time-outs - a strategy that typically involves
denying the child any attention, praise or interaction with
parents for a specified period of time (that is, the parents
ignore the child). These quiet times force children to calm
down and learn to think about their emotions, rather than
acting out on them blindly.

Spanking may stop a child from misbehaving in the short
term, but it becomes less and less effective with repeated
use, according to the AAP; it also makes discipline more
difficult as the child gets older and outgrows spanking. As
the latest study shows, investing the time early on to teach
a child why his behavior is wrong may translate to a more
self-aware and in-control youngster in the long run.

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